Warrant Issued!!! 92 days Without My Girl

I just received a call from the Sheriff’s Office informing me that a warrant has been issued by the judge for the arrest of my daughters mother for custodial interference with a bond of 20,000.00. They are planning to pick her up tomorrow.Wow, I thought this day would never come. Let this be a victory  for all of us that suffer with custodial interference and feel the pain of our children caught in the middle because they are the true victims here.

  I know I have not won the war but at this point I am happy to have won the battle…

Lost In The Shuffle Day 90 Without My Girl

I am at my Witt’s end with the way things are handled by the people who are supposed to protect us and uphold our laws. Since my last post I have missed another 2 visitations with my little girl. I told my daughters mother that she had better deliver my daughter to me as per our custody agreement this week. She then has the nerve to text me back and tell me that she was not going to do that and that I should stop harassing her. Can you believe that? I am harassing her for wanting to see my daughter during my court ordered visitation period!!! Where do people get off screwing the life of a loving father and a little girl like that?

  If you are new to my blog, go back and read from the beginning and you will understand my frustration.

  I spoke to the detective in charge of my case with the sheriffs department the other day to check on the progress through the PA’s office. He couldn’t find anything so he called down and found out that three weeks ago when the assistant Prosecuting Attorney filed the charges for custodial interference against my ex, he filed the wrong paperwork and everything got kicked back to his office and lost. After a heated visit from me and now from the detective, the proper paperwork was filed and made it to the judge. The warrant for her arrest was signed by the judge and sent to warrants for processing. You might be saying, Well this sounds like it is going in the right direction. Yeah, you would think so. Wait a minute, the judge signed the warrant but failed to sign the complaint. Can’t do anything with this. So now everything has been kicked back to the prosecuting attorneys office to be resubmitted once again to the judge. What can happen next? I hate to even wonder.

  You know I feel like a huge part of me has been ripped out and thrown away. My daughter and I have been attached at the hip and the heart as much as possible since the very start. Everything I have done in my life has had her first in my mind. My job, my personal life, everything. Now her mother just decides that my little girl doesn’t need me anymore. She is telling law enforcement that being around me is going to do my daughter mental harm!!! Where the heck did that come from? When she needs something, she was always telling me what a great father I am and how much my daughter loves me.

  Handling this by the book and strictly according to the law, has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I hope that everything works out the way it should so that at least if there is one person who is in the same situation, who is feeling the frustration that I am feeling might at least be able to see that sometimes the good guys can win…

Flat Tire On The Wheels Of Justice-Where Is My Daughter-Day 79

I guess that there must have been a citywide blackout that no one told me about because all of the sudden I can’t get anyone to return my calls. I was told “that this needs to be dealt with right away. We have to get you and your daughter back together as soon as possible. This has gone on long enough”. These are just a few of the heartfelt quotes I have heard lately from law enforcement and my assistant P.A. One tells me that everything has gone to the judge for review and the other tells me, “that’s not the way it works. First it has to come through me then I take it to the judge and I will let you know as soon as I hear anything“.

  In the mean time my little girl drifts further and further away from me. and my daughters mom feels stronger and stronger. 

  What I would like to know is, if the tables were turned would I have been sitting in jail after the first offence? Our System as it’s called, has a long way to go before we will get true justice in matters like this. I believe that justice is only served if it is dealt with in a timely manner. What is my daughter going through? What is she being told through all of this time away from me? Will we ever be the same?

Waiting Game- Still No Visitation,Day 72

I had really hoped to be further along with the court process by now. The longer it takes the wheels of justice to turn, the more time I loose with my little girl. Don’t they realize that this is time that neither one of us can ever get back? People keep telling me that even if I miss my girls childhood because of this type of behavior on her mothers part, that I will be able to have a much stronger relationship with her in her teen years because she will then understand what her mother has done to her and I now and she will love me even more. Now how does that make any sense? Doesn’t a child have the right to have the memories of a loving and happy childhood any more?

  I couldn’t believe the story on the news the other day about the little boy who’s mother took him away(kidnapped) to Brazil with her new husband, she died and now they have to figure out how to get custody back to his real dad who has been denied visitation for over four years. Granted this is happening in a foreign country but as some of you know this type of thing happens in our own country every day and guess who is caught in the middle?

  How do we in this country expect our children to grow up with a strong sense of self and faith in the system, when the system allows children to be victimized like this?

  I am new to blogging, and I even thing that what I write sounds a lot like rambling but I do it to keep my sanity through all of this. My daughter and I have always been very close. Going to the park, feeding the ducks at the lake, looking at the full moon. It didn’t matter what we were doing we always had fun. From the time she gets up in the morning till I dance her to sleep with her beautiful little head on my shoulder, I tell her that I couldn’t love her any more than I do today (until tomorrow). She always tells me she loves me more than the whole Galaxy. I miss you my little love.

No Call No Show, Again, Day 70

Well another weekend comes and goes and no visitation with my little girl. As usual, I go to our court appointed drop off spot. On the way I text my girls mother and let her know that I am on my way. No answer to my text I then wait 30 min, no show. Ten minuets after she was ordered to show I text again, No answer. Twenty minuets later I leave and call the Sheriffs office to report the seventh act of custodial interference in a row. I get home thirty minuets later and a text comes through from her saying that she wasn’t going to make my four year old daughter do anything she doesn’t want to do…

  Later that evening a sheriff’s deputy calls and agrees to write a report on the incident. I then asked him if he would go out and do a welfare check on my little girl because I have not seen her in over two months and didn’t know for sure she was even still around due to the fact that my only communications have been on a cell phone. He said he would. I also had told him that there had been an arrest warrant issued by the prossecuting attorney but was under review by the judge. The deputy said he would check the status of the warrant and that if it had passed the judge he would bring her in and I could go out and get my daughter.

  The next morning I had to call the Sherri’s office to find out what had happened. Now mind you this deputy was not the detective that I had written about in my previous post, he was not on duty when this violation took place. About a half   hour later the deputy called back. He told me that my daughter was asleep in her bed when he looked in on her and appeared to be fine. He then talked to her mother and told her that she had not shown up at the Court ordered drop-off and had not called. She then replied, That’s right I know. He then told her that I was filing another report on custodial interference Then he told her that it sounds like another case of “He said She said”. I don’t understand, don’t they teach these kids carrying guns anything about the law and court orders??? What good does it do to spend the thousands of dollars to send this stuff through the courts and get it signed by the judge if law enforcement cant read it and enforce it?

  I have been told probably three times before anyone was willing to write an actual report that this is a civil matter and that I just needed to take her back to court and that there was nothing law enforcement would for me in this type of case. If this is actually the way this states laws are intended. then we all have some serious work to do…

Renewing My Faith In The System

This is day 66 without my baby girl. Since my last post I received a call from the assistant prosecuting attorney letting me know that he read the reports forwarded from the sheriffs department. He said that he felt that something had to be done right away to get my daughter and myself back together as soon as possible. He filed charges for custodial interference and issued a warrant for the arrest of my daughters mother. He then sent it to the judge for review. He also said that I would have no more problems with law enforcement when I have future problems of this sort , now that the prosecutor has filed charges. In other words law enforcement wont feel like their efforts are in vain.

  It sounds like something should happen soon, Thank God. I miss my little girl so much. This whole experience has touched every part of my life. What keeps going through my head is, what has she been filling her little head with about me. Is she telling her that her daddy doesn’t want to see her?I guess I will find out soon. Please say a prayer for us. I will keep you posted

Violation After Violation

Since my last post (No Consequences) I have not been able to see or speak to my little girl. That’s 61 days. Her Mom has been unwilling to let her come to my home or even talk to me on the phone. She just won’t answer when I call. I text message her to let her know that I will be at the court ordered drop off spot half way between our homes and she will then text back that she won’t be there. I then call the sheriffs office and they finally started to file reports and charges against her for custodial interference. there are now five charges against her.

   I got a nice surprise the other morning when a detective from the sheriffs dept. informed that he was the detective in charge of my case. I couldn’t believe my ears. He then continued to tell me that he has forwarded all of the reports and charges against my daughters mom on to the prosecuting attorneys office and that they have been assigned for review. Even though I have not seen my baby for a long time and I miss her like crazy. Maybe something good will happen.

  I simply love my baby. All I want is to be in her life and have her in mine. Why is that so hard to understand. I don’t understand how people can mess with a childs life like she has. There are so many parents who would just as soon skip out on the responsebility of a child. why would anyone want to tear something so beautifull apart?

  If you are in a situation like mine I would love to hear your comments. I don’t care if you ar a dad or a mom, it dosen’t matter. We just need to find a way to help these children caught in the middle.

No Consequences

The last weekend I was able  to see my daughter was Nov 29th 2008. On that Saturday night I received a phone call from the Sheriff’s department informing me that her mother was on her way over to pick up my baby. She had neglected to tell the deputy that there was a court order in place and that this was my weekend for visitation. She was claiming custodial interference on my part. The deputy told her not to come to my house until he had a chance to talk to me. She did not listen. When I spoke to the deputy he suggested that this was a ” he said she said issue” and that I should just turn my daughter over to her mother. I then explained the court order to him and demanded that he come to my house because I had no intention of turning my daughter over. When her and her husband arrived at my house they began pounding on the door and screaming, ” It’s ok baby mommy is here, your daddy is doing this to you” for all the neighbors to hear. Meanwhile my daughter is fast asleep and totally unaware of what is going on. When the deputies arrived one spoke to her and one came in and spoke to me. He read the court order, peaked in on my daughter and determined I was in the right. When the officer went outside to tell her that I was right to keep my daughter, she proceeded to tell them “he must be drugging her, because she would never sleep through all this”. The deputy was then forced to come back in and verify her safety by having me wake her from a sound sleep. When he was satisfied that not only was she not drugged but absolutley fine, he told her mother to leave. They drove away with no consequnces, no report filed for destroying my property and scaring my entire family, including my wife, 2 month old daughter, and my 2 step-sons. All my neighbors get to decide for themselves if they should take to heart these false accusations.

I thought to my self, Oh no here we go.

Missing My Baby Girl

Good morning, I am the non-custodial parent and loving father of a beautiful 4 year old girl. I am starting this blog because I have a need to be heard. I would also like to hear the experiences of others in this situation. Even though I have the support of my wonderful wife and family, I still feel I am alone in this situation and that they cannot fully understand how this loss makes me feel. It is not my intent to create a blog about father’s rights alone, but a blog that addresses the rights of both the non-custodial parents and the children it affects.

Any of you battling custodial interference know what I am going through. I have a court order currently in place that gives me both joint legal and physical custody of my daughter, and every other weekend visitation. Due to the illegal actions of her mother I have not been able to see or speak to my daughter for over 2 months. I believe the court system still has a long way to come in regards to the rights’s of a father and really doing what is best for the child, but what I really want change for and answers to is, what good is a court order if no one will enforce it. In the State of Idaho, (where I live), custodial interference is a misdemeanor and not taken seriously.

On six separate occasions, (so far), including the first Christmas I would have had my daughter, and my regularly scheduled weekends, I have been denied access to her. In turn I have contacted the police, explained my situation and a report has been filed charging her mother with a crime, with a promise to pass it on to the prosecuting attorney, and yet nothing changes. No serious action was taken the first time this occurred and because of it she now feels empowered and in the right to continue to break the law. It is in this area that I hope to affect change in the laws and how law enforcement reacts when enforcing a court order, and to the acknowledgement of a child’s need to have a relationship with both parents without fear or guilt.